Everyone wants the best life! Most people find it important to achieve daily happiness and success. Having goals to strive for on an ongoing basis is admirable, but you must keep reality in check, too. You can have the best intentions and still be completely unaware of personal self-sabotaging behaviors. Explore this guide to find out why you just might be destroying your inner self.
Simple habits you engage in everyday could be holding you back and sabotaging your success on a daily basis. Stop the path of self-destruction and read ahead on how to improve your behaviors and see real results.
Nix These 5 Self-Sabotaging Behaviors to Achieve Success.
Too Many Social Media Notifications
Are you tapped into Twitter, Facebook, and Snapchat to keep in touch with friends? Do you look to social media to see the latest trends in fashion, home design and new autos? Constantly comparing yourself and your situation to what others achieve or have can make you feel like you don’t measure up.
Think of it like this: if everyone is paragliding in Bahamas, but you don’t even have any vacation time saved up, it can create feelings of low self-worth.
Seeing all of those pictures of what your co-workers got their spouses for Christmas? That can really make you feel a bit inferior, too, especially if you’re single or your spouse couldn’t afford to spoil you.
So what’s the fix? Stay focused on what you have, not what you don’t. Instead of getting upset, put a small amount of funds away each paycheck. Before you know it, you’ll have enough saved up to indulge.
Keeping up with the Joneses
Sitting down for your morning coffee, only to see your neighbors getting a new inground pool installed? It can be depressing to look at the luxuries people around you enjoy when you’re struggling just to tend to the basics and make ends meet. Constantly trying to keep up with the Joneses (or even your own siblings, for that matter) can kill your motivation and drive, leaving you tuned-out and struggling just to get through the day.
Stop trying to live up to other people’s expectations; focus on what YOU need and what YOU want to achieve instead. You don’t have to be like your neighbors, or your siblings, or even your friends. Your personal definition of success will be different, and that’s okay.
Stalking Your Ex on Facebook
Bored? Maybe you’re thumbing through your phone when — oops, you stumbled on your ex’s page. Lo and behold, there they are in all their negative-thought-breeding glory with their new significant other. In Italy.
The same Italy you two were supposed to experience before you broke up. Of all the nerve.
Wasn’t that something the two of you talked about for years? Here you are single, alone and lonely. This can easily trigger feelings of depression and evoke overall lack of self-worth.
Here’s a little bit of tough love: it isn’t emotionally healthy to follow your exes. Hanging on to the past can destroy potential future relationships.
Jumping into Fad Diet Programs
Is everyone around you losing weight and changing their appearance? Maybe you’ve tried several diets and you’re still not able to lose that last 20 pounds. What works for your co-worker or sister may not work for you. The key is to stay away from fad diets that require crazy limitations on food groups or calories. Start with seeing your doctor. Make sure you’re healthy and nothing is limiting you from shedding some pounds. If you get a clean bill of health and doctor approval, follow their recommendations for a diet program.
Making Positive Changes
Try implementing the one percent strategy. Alice Boyes, Ph.D from Psychology Today suggests asking yourself; “If I only made a one percent, or minor improvement to a large destructive behavior, how big of a change would that be in the right direction?” Making small attempts to change unhealthy daily habits can lead to bigger changes down the road.
Comparing yourself to others, living in the past and setting unrealistic goals and expectations contributes to self-sabotage. Leave toxic relationships and destructive behaviors in the past in order to achieve your future dreams.
~Here’s to Your Success